Sunday, 13 May 2012

Honour Thy Mother and Thy Father

In many parts of the world, today is Mother's Day.
One of my early memories are of Mother's Day. I remember mummie picking red carnations to our dresses. She told us that the red meant that she, our mother, is still alive. She too wore a red carnation. But on grandmother's dress, mummie pinned a white carnation.
"Why?" I wanted to know.
"Because grandmother's mother is in heaven. White means the person's mother has gone on."
Grandmother had a mother????
Which that she had a mother....
I do not remember the Mother's Day service. My thoughts were going back. way back, trying to figure out who the very first mother was.
"Eve, Laini. Remember Sunday School."
"And G_D created Eve."
"Who created G_D?"
"That's another story, Laini."
Years, later I remember the first Mother's Day after Grandmother Callie's passing. Mummie tried to pick on a white carnation, but couldn't.
She has never another one since.
The last time I saw carnations on Mother's Day is when my mother gave me a very pretty dress and pink carnations.
Pink is for new mums.
But over the years, at least in my home, Mother's Day has become less and less important. Mainly due to mummie's views.
I remember talking to mummie this about four years ago. Mummie said she doesn't need Mother's Day. For her two daughters and two sons-in-law honour her every day. She knows she is loved and cherished by her children, grandchildren and grand dog, Monti. Mummie made it clear that she doesn't need fancy gifts or flowers, to be taken out for supper or over priced cards to know we honour her.
"Honour Thy Mother and Thy Father," is every day, not just the second Sunday of May.
Efforts to establish a national day to honour has been in the works since 1870s, but never made it thought until May 8th 1914.
Thanks to a young lady who wanted to honour the mother who had died in 1905. Ann Marie Jarivs wanted to honour her mother in a very special way. her church, Andrew's Methodist Episcopal Church, held its first Mother's Day service. Ann Marie delivered white carnations, 500 hundred of them, her mother's favourite flower, to be handed out.
Jarvis wanted the white carnation to be an emblem of mother's purity, faithfulness and love. The white carnations quickly shown out and florists promoted the idea of wearing red carnation in honouring of living mothers and white in memory of mothers who are deceased.
Eventually, Ann Marie Jarvis herself ended up opposing the holiday she had help to create. She, like many (including me) refer to this day as a "Hallmark Holiday."
Ms. Jarvis regretted what has become of the holiday she created, just to honour her mother.
Today, Mark, Montaque and I went to see my mother. Mark had made collard greens the night before and so we brought a bowl to go with her supper later in the evening.
Just the very thing she wanted.
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