I recieved a letter from someone who chose not to leave a comment on the journal. After reading that Mark and I did not have sex before we were married, this person asked: "your kidding, right?"
No, we are not.
We knew what 'it' felt like. But after repenting and turning our lives fully over to G-d (we didn't know each other at the time) we both took a vow not to have sex until we married.
And no, it was not easy.
The reason, clearly the Torah makes it clear that sex is for martial pleasure and for having children. This was a choice we made.
And when we became engaged, Mark would kiss my cheek, chin, hand and forehead. He wanted to be honourable and not behave less than a gentleman.
So, in our wedding program, in big, bold letters, we had written THE KISS! And boy what a kiss!
Sex is wonderful and beautiful; in the bonds of marriage between a man and his wife.